Damn Murphy anyway. I should have known better than to post all that wonderful “spring is coming, la, la, la” crap the other day. I might as well have stood in the middle of Fifth Avenue just daring the Manhattan cabbies to hit me as I crossed against the light.
Whatever it is that goes on in Nik’s head —and I mean that entirely literally —to cause such pain and distress is on the rise again. It’s been an ugly couple of days around here. Nik’s been Jekyll and Hyde, the master of the mixed message, contrarian extraordinaire. He wants me; he doesn’t want me. He clings to me; he pushes me away but gets upset when I leave his side. It’s no longer sweet and endearing. We’ve far surpassed bonding and moved right into the stalker stage.
And the pain. The physical pain that washes over him unexpectedly. While he’s playing or dining. While he’s watching Mary Poppins. It’s as if someone has stuck him in the eye with a hot poker. And Nik seems to want to blame it on someone —anyone —and I seem to be conveniently at hand. I can’t say I blame him, really. I mean, I’d like to be able to blame someone or something for the topsy-turvy days, the disjointed nights, and the bruises and tears. If I am feeling this way without the physical sensations Nik is experiencing, well, I can only imagine how he feels. Though, last night I did go to bed early with a migraine; I’ve not had those in nearly a year.
We’re back to the daily Advil habit to mitigate the worst of the pain —or at least dull it to a tolerable level. I hate when we have to resort to that, though; it really starts to wear on his stomach. Today he’s been clutching at his belly periodically. It makes me wonder if it’s the Advil or if it’s new symptom being added to the mystery ailment.
The irony is that Nik is making such great strides in so many areas; I just hate that it comes wrapped in such prickly packaging.
If I try to be really objective, I might be able to see that, perhaps, Nik’s sudden clingy, bossy, come-here-go-away behavior is an attempt at controlling something that feels out of control to him. A small measure of comfort when he feels ill at ease, perhaps? Maybe it is those things and maybe it is not. I wish he could tell me what hurts, what he feels and hears. What he needs.
Tomorrow morning Niksdad and I get the dubious pleasure of taking Nik to the sleep lab at our neurologist’s office; at 7:30 tomorrow Nik will be hooked up for a 24 to 48 hour ambulatory EEG. Thank goodness Niksdad does not have school tomorrow and will not only be around to help me in the morning, but will give me an opportunity to get out of the house for a bit by myself. The last time we did an ambulatory EEG, Nik was not walking; in fact, he had just learned to sit up a month before. I can’t help but wonder how Nik will respond to all the electrodes on his head and lugging around the backpack-recorder.
If there is a patron saint of parental sanity, please, please pray for me? For us?